Dear Lizz

I just want to make it clear to everyone out there my feelings toward Lizz. There has been a lot of gossip told about us and our "hate" toward each other. Some of you stay out of it, and some of you can't get enough of it. So let's get this straight once and for all.

Lizz and I get along. We are friendly toward each other and we talk. We have both apologized for things of the passed and have moved on. We have discussed the "gossip" and "rumors" about us. We do not have contention toward each other. We do not hate each other. We are both intelligent people. We know there are worlds between us, our lives, and how we run our days. No, Lizz and I are not looking for a friendship. We are not going to go on vacation together or we do not plan birthday parties together. We are aware of the part we play in each others lives and we respect that. Let me also state my position on the girls. These are her daughters. They are also Selo's daughters. They are not my daughters. They are my friends and will soon be my step-daughters. They do not call me mom. They call Lizz mom, as they should. When Selo and I are married, this will not change. Once again, Lizz is their mom. This is a fact, and not a matter of opinion. I don't expect them to ever refer to me as their mom. I know that, she knows that, and the girls know that. When it comes to our (respective) relationships, that is also very clear. Lizz is with Will and they are happy together. I am with Selo and we are happy together. Will, Lizz, Selo, and I have all had our troubles in our relationships. In the one we are in now, and in the past. But I have heard Lizz (and Will) say and I can say (for myself and Selo), we have never been happier. We both plan on marrying the one we are with and plan on moving on with our lives. We already have our wedding dates. They have nothing to do with the other. A wedding is not a competition. It is not a race. Lizz and I have discussed our respective weddings and discussed dates. We are respecting and encouraging toward each other. I wish Lizz and Will the best of happiness in their upcoming wedding and in their future together. Lizz has wished me the same.

I believe I speak for both Lizz and I when I say, be nice or butt out. And believe it or not, we don't like drama. I, personally, am going to stop responding to anyone that is attempting to cause me OR Lizz any grief. Since Lizz and I have established peace between us, I ask that anyone else out there trying to cause problems to knock it off. Grow up and find something better to do with your time.

For those of you out there that read this and are STILL planning on stirring things up. Lizz knows about this blog. I emailed Lizz about it when I wrote it. That way, if she has anything additional to state, or if she doesn't agree with this, she can state it herself.